So I finally decided to set up a blog to document my transition. Maybe this blog will be helpful for anyone currently transitioning or thinking about transitioning, maybe it’ll educate people or challenge some stereotypes that come alongside the word ‘transgender’ – or maybe it will just serve as a place to document my personal transition. Whichever route this blog goes down, let me make it clear from the get-go; I am purely writing from a PERSONAL viewpoint and as such I do not speak for the entire transgender community.
Let me introduce myself, then take it back in time a bit so I can document my entire transition. My name is Elliot Kai, I’m 17 years old and I’m a transgender male. That means I was born a girl (my biological sex is female) but I am socially and medically transitioning to male (my gender is male) because I have a condition called Gender Dysphoria. Gender Dysphoria, otherwise known as Gender Identity Disorder, is where your brain is hard-wired to be the opposite gender than the one you were assigned at birth. It causes a huge amount of discomfort with your own body, and can usually only be relieved when you start accepting yourself as the opposite gender. People with Gender Dysphoria are ‘transgender.’
I came out as transgender after months of being in the closet on August 13th 2016. Well, actually, I told my friends first on the 11th, then my close family on the morning of the 13th, and made it public via a Facebook status on the evening of the 13th. Everyone was incredibly supportive. Two weeks later, I legally changed my name and title by Deed Poll, so my title is now ‘Mr’ and name is ‘Elliot.’
A week after my legal name change, I went to the doctors for the first time regarding my medical transition. I told him that I was transgender and that I would like to be referred to a Gender Identity Clinic so that I could access hormones and Gender Reassignment Surgery. We looked at my options – there are 7 specialist Gender Clinics in England with varying waiting lists. In the end, I decided to be referred to Northampton Gender Service in Daventry, where it has the shortest waiting list of 10 months. He also referred me to CAMHS for some other professional backing.
Since that appointment, I did my research on testosterone (the male hormone) and learnt about bridging prescriptions – where your GP has the right to prescribe hormones to you before you’re seen at the Clinic if they think it would be beneficial to you in order to reduce the possibility of harm. So on the off chance, I went to see my GP again to ask him about a prescription – I’d read that a lot of GP’s refuse to initiate a bridging prescription because they’d rather have the patient see a specialist pre-T, so I wasn’t expecting much – but since both my GP and my CAMHS practitioner thought it was a good idea, I was able to get the bridging prescription. (I’ll be making a separate post on my bridging prescription process.)
So that’s where my transition’s been up to now. An awful lot has happened in such a short space of time and I’ve never been happier. Onwards and upwards.